aashagreyjoy replied to your post: I’m not remotely a violent person, but people who…
ugh what post?
what post? O.o
everyone should just go visit this guy’s tumblr. he has me shaking with anger at how insensitive and disrespectful he is towards victims of rape and sexual abuse. I never call anyone out, but you know, if you’re going to show such indecency on a public blog, I have every right to direct my 9,898 followers your way.
the bitch just came out.
I’m not remotely a violent person, but people who justify rape jokes make me want to punch them in the face.
what if we taught our boys not to rape instead of teaching our girls what not to wear?
Let me start out by saying that I came out to the Tumblr community last year after reading crappy post upon crappy post about how it’s acceptable to be anti incest, and how not supporting incestuous relationships and calling them “gross” isn’t wrong. By come out I mean I came out as a person who has been in a consensual sexual relationship with a family member. It was hard. I lost a lot of followers. I got a lot of hate mail. I also had a lot of people (probably around 15) come out to me and share their personal stories. Consensual incest is a lot more common than you’d think..but it is so deeply taboo that you’d never really know just how many people have been with or lusted over a family member. You could be friends with somebody who keeps it to themselves and not even know it. I never told a soul until last year Not even my best friends.
I get people talking to me about this every week or so, so I thought a “set the record straight” post would be helpful.
So here is a little mini “Essay” I put together regarding some of the finer points of acceptable bigotry.
I am happy to answer any questions as long as you come ~~non anon~~ so that I might answer them privately and won’t fill my blog up.
*readers note. I am no longer intimate with the family member I was involved with.
Nana brings up some really interesting points in here. And first of all, let me say, props to you bb, because I had no idea and that takes a lot of bravery to come out about something as taboo as that.
I’ll be the first to admit I have some prejudice against incest. I can’t even voice WHY, and that’s the saddest part of all! It makes my stomach turn a bit, especially when thinking of real life scenarios involving it. And it really makes me want to research where this prejudice is rooted from. I generally like to research things I find myself forming (or have already formed) a prejudice against, so I can try to fix the problem.
I actually think shows like GoT have helped me. Because the scenarios do involve two consenting adults and, related or not, I’m slowly coming to accept it? I know, with GoT, it had a lot to do with the similar structure to Egyptian and even Roman culture, subjects which I’m diversely interested in. But I still struggle to apply it to real life scenarios without a bit of innate disgust.
I am trying though, and this post is certainly helping me.
But my motto has literally always been, as long as it’s consensual and not directly harming any outside party, you really have no right to shame.
AnonymousHere's an example that's a little more clear. (I'm not an expert on this by any stretch...) But, this is the definition that I found first on Webster or whatever for rape: "The crime, committed by a man, of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with him, esp. by the threat or use of violence." But that's NOT an appropriate definition of rape at all. That definition fails to take into account many different aspects of rape, such as the fact that women can rape AS WELL as men.
VERY good definition! Thank you. But I almost feel like this ask plays a little into my side of things, too? Because the definition of rape was so vague and limited to men raping women and not even taking into the idea of objects up until recently when the federal government finally modified it. But the thing is, a woman can rape a man, a man can rape a man, a transgender can rape a gender neutral identifying person. I feel like you could apply this to the idea of racism, couldn’t you? Just because the idea of racism is that a majority is oppressing a minority, it’s not always so black and white.